Most people subconsciously define their success and fulfillment by what other people think of them. They think that they need to achieve certain social norms in lifestyle or success in order to achieve validation from other people, and thereby be happy. But the truth is that achieving happiness in life is different for everyone, and it is far more important for you to understand what it means for you and then go after that, than to spend all your time working towards somebody else’s version of a happy and fulfilled life!
But it’s not always easy. We are wired and conditioned to seek approval from others, and to even be paranoid about what others might think of us. In order to be able to really focus on what makes use happy, we need to get beyond all of that, understand that most people hardly care at all for anyone but themselves, and move on with building the best life possible!
And that is what this episode is all about. It is about how to truly stop giving a damn about what other people think about you. Because once you can do that, you can start to define and then build the exact life that will bring you personally the most happiness.
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- Too much focus on what other people will think can be completely paralyzing
- The side of our brain that worries about what others will think tends to be completely paranoid
- Understand that you have to keep the side of your brain that is trying to make sense of social interactions in check
- Most importantly, remember that most people don’t care about you as much as you probably think
- Understanding that people are not thinking about you at all until you are in direct interaction will free you up to behave in a way that is truly and authentically you
- When you compare yourself with others, you will always think you are less than them, because they only choose to show the best of themselves. You never see under the hood
- So focus on yourself, and work to continually improve on who you were a year ago, a month ago, a week ago, or even yesterday
- Define your own happiness, outside of any other expectations or social norms, and be as specific as possible with it
Remember that what is more important than anything is your ability to achieve what makes you really happy. So don’t worry about the social norms or what is expected of you, and instead focus exclusively on what will bring you personally the most happiness.