
Iโll never forget that weekend.
Two years after graduating college, I went back for homecoming. Partly to see old friendsโbut mostly because, letโs be honest, homecoming was one hell of a party. We're talking 5,000 rowdy alumni packed into Collins Plaza in Cedar Rapids. 70% were single, recently graduated, and ready to make some memories.
And yes, letโs just say the โPG-13โ version of that weekend still leaves plenty to the imagination.
But before I ever set foot in that crowd, I had a goal: I wanted to show up looking sharp.
I didnโt want to look like I was clinging to my college days. I wanted to stand out. And with the help of Nordstrom, I pulled together a simple, classic look:
- Tan wool pleated trousers
- A black turtleneck
- Houndstooth sport coat
- Clean dress shoes
And gentlemenโฆ it worked. Compliments all night. Confidence through the roof. And one particularly memorable moment in a hot tub with a womanโletโs call her Shannonโwho commented on how surprisingly sharp those pleated trousers looked.
Why do I tell this story?
Because itโs the perfect lead-in to todayโs topic:
The subtle clothing mistakes that make men look olderโand how to fix them without losing your edge.
Letโs dig in.
1. Wearing Outdated Styles (Especially If You Bought Them “Trendy” 10 Years Ago)

Yes, youโre proud that suit from 2013 still fits.
But just because it fits doesn't mean it flatters.
Outdated lapels, oversized jackets, wide ties, and bold patterns scream “decade-old trend”โespecially when worn by someone who looks like they havenโt updated their closet since college.
Instead:
Invest in timeless pieces that don't chase trends. Think navy and charcoal suits, minimalist dress shoes, and white or light-blue dress shirts.
Fun Fact:
In the 1940s, suit lapels were wide enough to signal prosperity post-Depression. In the '90s, everything went baggy. In the 2020s, it's all about balance and proportion.
2. Pleated Pants Without Intention

Now, let me be clear: Pleats arenโt the enemy.
In fact, pleated trousers have made a comeback in recent years as part of the revival in classic menswear.
But here's the catch: if you wear them wrong, they can make you look like you're still dressing like your dad in 1991.
Instead:
If you wear pleats, do it with purpose. Go for forward pleats (which face the fly), and pair them with a fitted top half to balance the extra fabric.
And yesโShannon was wrong. Pleats can look fantastic when worn intentionally.
3. Black Everything

Black is bold, powerful, and timelessโwhen you're in your 20s.
But as you age, especially into your late 30s and 40s, black can actually wash you out, emphasize wrinkles, and dull your complexion.
Instead:
Transition into richer, more flattering neutrals like charcoal, navy, burgundy, and olive. These colors complement most mature skin tones and still convey authority.
4. Outdated Tie Widths

Wearing the wrong tie width is like walking around with a flip phoneโit ages you instantly.
- Too wide = '90s boardroom.
- Too skinny = indie rock band in 2011.
Instead:
Aim for a tie thatโs about 2.75 to 3.25 inches wideโproportional to your jacket lapels and body frame.
And skip the novelty patterns unless youโre doing ugly tie day at the office.
5. Worn-Out Favorites

That band tee from your college days? The lucky shirt with frayed cuffs? Your beat-up loafers with zero sole left?
These arenโt charming. Theyโre aging you.
Instead:
Audit your closet every 6 months. Toss anything thatโs stretched out, faded, or fraying. Replace them with upgraded basics.
Pro tip:
Fresh socks and underwear every 6โ9 months. Itโs the style secret that literally no one seesโbut everyone feels.
6. Square-Toed Shoes

Few things signal โ1998 sales conferenceโ like square-toed dress shoes.
They were trendy for a hot minute. That minute passedโฆ 20 years ago.
Instead:
Look for almond or round-toe dress shoes. Sleek. Timeless. Respectable. And way more flattering on the foot.
7. Wearing Trendy Teen Brands

Youโre a grown man. If your hoodie says Affliction, Ed Hardy, or some washed-up logo brandโlet it go.
These brands were cool in the club scene of the mid-2000s. Wearing them now just screams โtrying too hard.โ
Instead:
Stick with clean, modern basics from brands that focus on quality. Avoid logos when possible. The less branding, the more versatileโand matureโyour look becomes.
8. Outdated Glasses

Eyewear is face furniture. Outdated frames can date your whole appearance.
Instead:
Update your frames every 3โ5 years. Go for styles that flatter your face shape and feel contemporaryโnot trendy.
9. Unkempt Facial Hair and Rogue Body Hair

Letโs be honest. Nose hair, ear hair, and wiry eyebrows arenโt signs of maturity. Theyโre signs of neglect.
Instead:
Invest in a grooming kit (trimmer, tweezers, barber scissors). Ask your barber to handle anything you're scared to touch. Stay sharp.
10. Wearing โComfort Shoesโ With Dress Outfits

Youโre dressed in a sharp blazer and tailored trousersโฆ and then you throw on orthopedic slip-ons?
Donโt do this to yourself.
Instead:
You can have comfort and style. Look for brands offering cushioned insoles, arch support, and contemporary design. Avoid bulky soles and old-man silhouettes.
11. Sticking Only to Earth Tones

Wearing only muted browns, olives, and beiges can make you blend into the backgroundโand not in a good way.
Instead:
Mix in crisp whites, bold blues, and even jewel tones. As you age, color becomes one of your best tools to signal energy and style.
12. Poor Posture (The Silent Style Killer)

You could wear a $3,000 suitโฆ but if you're slouching, youโll still look tired, defeated, and older than you are.
Instead:
Train your posture like a skill. Ruck, stretch, strengthen your back, and wear clothing that encourages upright movement.
BONUS: The Fastest Way to Look 10 Years Older? Ignoring Grooming.

- Lifeless skin
- Greying stubble with no shape
- Dull hair or outdated styles
You donโt need Botox or surgeryโbut you do need a routine.
- Exfoliate once a week
- Use moisturizer daily
- Get regular haircuts
- Update your beard style at least once a year
Age with Intent, Not by Accident
Gentsโgetting older isnโt the enemy.
But looking like youโve given up? That is.
The trick isnโt to dress youngโitโs to dress with intention. To stay curious. To keep evolving.
Just like I did back at that Cornell College homecomingโwith a timeless outfit, a little confidence, and a pair of pleated pants that, surprisingly, made me the most interesting man in the hot tub.
Want to level up your style even more?
Check out my Style Systemโa step-by-step program to help you build a wardrobe that gets compliments, commands respect, and never goes out of style.
Because gentlemen, great style isnโt about looking youngโฆ
Itโs all about looking sharp.






